Wednesday, October 31, 2012
You Can’t Love Someone Else Till You Love Yourself
I had loved this girl unconditionally. I did everything to make her happy, even though I was not happy. I gave her everything she wanted without thinking about what I wanted. Everything I did was not enough, she still left me alone. I was the nicest companion she could ever have wanted, but what went wrong? Let me explain!
You see, when we broke up, I came to realize, everything that I said above was not what was right but what was wrong in our relationship.
I loved her unconditionally without loving myself first unconditionally. I was so down on myself that I thought I didn't deserve anyone that loves me. And so I made this pedestal to remind me, every woman, in fact everyone was above me. If you saw me, you would think I was so strong and confident, but inside, I was really weak. I did everything to make her happy, where in fact I should have done everything to make myself happy, then she would be happy being with me. I gave her everything she wanted without thinking what we needed. I had permitted her to disregard my feelings, losing my respect for myself and thus losing her respect too. I was the nicest person to her but I was not the nicest person to myself. I let myself get hurt. I let myself became a trash to the person I loved. I had not loved myself enough.
Of all the things that have happened, I am still thankful that she came into my life. I have learned the lessons in love in the hardest way. In order to love another person right, you must first learn to love yourself. If you are happy with yourself, anyone you love will be happy being with you. Your own happiness should not depend on other person’s happiness, always put yourself first. By that time you make yourself happy, you will have learned how to make others happy too. Love yourself, how can you accept a woman and her flaws when you can't accept your own? Be confident about yourself; learn the power of the mind. If you think that you are nothing, you will become nothing but if you think you can be anything, then you can be. Remember, everything we have and will become starts with the mind, then it becomes reality, so start thinking great things about yourself and thus you will become great. You should not put anyone on a pedestal or above you. In love, we are all equal. Remember, God loves us all even though he is God. Lastly, always keep your dignity. You may lose everything else but never lose respect for yourself. If you lose that respect then everything anyone does to you will be just fine with you.
If someone treats you badly, don't treat them bad in return, just tell them you won't tolerate rudeness or disrespect, if they won't listen, just walk away. You don't need people who treat you badly in your life; you just have to let them go. It is always said we should be kind to others. I agree but I also say, be kind to those who deserve your kindness... Loving yourself isn’t that bad at all. Actually, it feels great. Be Blessed and love someone today!!
Tuesday, October 30, 2012
The Arrogance of being President while being Black
I don't think anyone was under some real illusion that the election of Barack Obama actually means the end of racism in America. I'm pretty sure that the president-elect knew it better than anyone. After all, he saw it every day, from the moment he announced his candidacy. To some degree, he saw it within his own party during the primaries. And he saw it in all ugliness during the general election. For half of this country, he was "That One". No matter how big and clear his victory was. No matter how smart he is. No matter how decent he is. No matter what a true patriot he is. No matter how optimistic and positive his vision for America was. All that didn't matter. Because at the end of the day, he was still black.
I've seen so many presidents. Some were feared, some were hated, some were adored, some popular and some not. But all of them, without exception, were treated with the highest respect deserving the office of the president of the United States.
That is until a black man won the right to occupy this office. It's been 4 years now, and in the eyes of so many, Barack Obama is still that one. He is being disrespected and at the same time being held to the highest standard of any president I've ever seen – and not just by the Republican side! He has to perform three times better than any president in history and even that may not be enough.
For the media, he is many more times just "Obama" than "President Obama". They create scandals out of nothing issues. It took them at least 6 years to start giving Bush a small part of the shit he deserved. It took them 6 months to begin crap all over Obama because he's yet to fix the catastrophe that was left for him.
They use condescending tones when they talk about him, and only mildly less condescending when they talk TO him. With anyone else, CNN wouldn't dare go to commercials every time the president speaks, like they do. They wouldn't dare be counting how many minutes George Bush or Bill Clinton were talking. Chris Mathews wouldn't dare make an issue out of Ronald Regan calling members of congress by their first name, like he is not actually the president. They fully cooperate with the Right-Wing smear machine when it comes to president Obama's national security performance – even if almost every independent and military expert actually thinks that he's a terrific Commander-in-Chief. You'll never see them on TV and virtually no one from the Left, in congress and outside, defend the president on this matter.
I don't care about the Far-Right. They're just crazy ignorant Neanderthals. It's the way the beltway and the mainstream treats this president that is shocking. They look like they're going to vomit every time they had to say "Mr. President". They all had this Eric-Cantor-Smirk whenever he spoke. Then they went out and started to spit their stupid talking points, to the delight of the media.
Oh, those talking points. He is arrogant (because he knows the facts better than all of them combined). He is an elitist (because he uses big words that they don't understand). He is weak on national security (because he actually thinks about the consequences). He divides the country (well, he did that the day he had the audacity to win the election). Worst of all, he actually thinks that he's the president. He even dared to say so. How arrogant of him. You'd think that previous presidents didn't have any ego. Somehow it turned out that the one president who treats even his biggest opponents with the utmost respect – is the arrogant one. I wonder why?
I expected that his winning the Presidency would bring out some ugliness, but it's been far worse than I imagined. The racism coming from the Right is obviously clear and shameless, but there's also some hidden and maybe subconscious and disturbing underline tone behind some of the things that I read here and throughout the Left blogosphere, even before the end of Obama's first year - 'He's weak, he's spineless, he's got no balls, primary him in 2012'. It'll be dishonest to deny that.
The fact is that for millions in America, Barack Obama is this uppity black man (Not even a "real" black), who received good education only due to affirmative action, and has no right to litter the sacred Oval Office with his skin color. They just can't accept the fact that the president is a black man, who unlike his predecessor, was actually legally elected. But what's really sad is that it's not just the fringe, its deep deep in mainstream America.
Barack Obama's ability to remain above all this slob, to keep his optimism and his strange and mostly unjustified faith in people, while continuing to gracefully deal with an endless shitstorm – is one of the most inspiring displays of human quality I have ever seen. And I can only hope that the Cosmos is on his side because God is and He never makes a mistake.
Sometimes, they make me feel ashamed to be American!!
I've seen so many presidents. Some were feared, some were hated, some were adored, some popular and some not. But all of them, without exception, were treated with the highest respect deserving the office of the president of the United States.
That is until a black man won the right to occupy this office. It's been 4 years now, and in the eyes of so many, Barack Obama is still that one. He is being disrespected and at the same time being held to the highest standard of any president I've ever seen – and not just by the Republican side! He has to perform three times better than any president in history and even that may not be enough.
For the media, he is many more times just "Obama" than "President Obama". They create scandals out of nothing issues. It took them at least 6 years to start giving Bush a small part of the shit he deserved. It took them 6 months to begin crap all over Obama because he's yet to fix the catastrophe that was left for him.
They use condescending tones when they talk about him, and only mildly less condescending when they talk TO him. With anyone else, CNN wouldn't dare go to commercials every time the president speaks, like they do. They wouldn't dare be counting how many minutes George Bush or Bill Clinton were talking. Chris Mathews wouldn't dare make an issue out of Ronald Regan calling members of congress by their first name, like he is not actually the president. They fully cooperate with the Right-Wing smear machine when it comes to president Obama's national security performance – even if almost every independent and military expert actually thinks that he's a terrific Commander-in-Chief. You'll never see them on TV and virtually no one from the Left, in congress and outside, defend the president on this matter.
I don't care about the Far-Right. They're just crazy ignorant Neanderthals. It's the way the beltway and the mainstream treats this president that is shocking. They look like they're going to vomit every time they had to say "Mr. President". They all had this Eric-Cantor-Smirk whenever he spoke. Then they went out and started to spit their stupid talking points, to the delight of the media.
Oh, those talking points. He is arrogant (because he knows the facts better than all of them combined). He is an elitist (because he uses big words that they don't understand). He is weak on national security (because he actually thinks about the consequences). He divides the country (well, he did that the day he had the audacity to win the election). Worst of all, he actually thinks that he's the president. He even dared to say so. How arrogant of him. You'd think that previous presidents didn't have any ego. Somehow it turned out that the one president who treats even his biggest opponents with the utmost respect – is the arrogant one. I wonder why?
I expected that his winning the Presidency would bring out some ugliness, but it's been far worse than I imagined. The racism coming from the Right is obviously clear and shameless, but there's also some hidden and maybe subconscious and disturbing underline tone behind some of the things that I read here and throughout the Left blogosphere, even before the end of Obama's first year - 'He's weak, he's spineless, he's got no balls, primary him in 2012'. It'll be dishonest to deny that.
The fact is that for millions in America, Barack Obama is this uppity black man (Not even a "real" black), who received good education only due to affirmative action, and has no right to litter the sacred Oval Office with his skin color. They just can't accept the fact that the president is a black man, who unlike his predecessor, was actually legally elected. But what's really sad is that it's not just the fringe, its deep deep in mainstream America.
Barack Obama's ability to remain above all this slob, to keep his optimism and his strange and mostly unjustified faith in people, while continuing to gracefully deal with an endless shitstorm – is one of the most inspiring displays of human quality I have ever seen. And I can only hope that the Cosmos is on his side because God is and He never makes a mistake.
Sometimes, they make me feel ashamed to be American!!
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Providence Packers 2008 Season Begins
Hello All
Well, the 2008 Pop Warner season has begun and The Providence Packers Youth teams are representing. We had our round robin on August 23. The Pee-Wee team won 15-0 over the Cumberland Colts and the Midget team won 64-0 over the Cumberland Colts. August 31, 2008 was our first actual league game day and our Pee-Wee team lost to the Seekonk Jr. Warriors 15-0 but our Midget team beat the Coventry Rams 16-0. We would like to thank everyone who came out to support our kids Sunday and I hope the fan base grows exponentially as the season progresses. We are very proud of our kids in the way that they played on the field and behaved off of the field. I do intend to start blogging again soon but until then, come to our website so you can keep up with how our children are performing on the gridiron.
Big ups to our man in 2008, Barack Obama for history in the making. Everyone please go out and vote. Show this brother love not because he is a brother but because he is for real and has the answers to the question.
Also, big ups to my girl, Amber Campbell who went over to Beijing and represented in the 2008 Olympics. Although she did not bring home a medal, SHE NOW HOLDS A MAJOR RECORD FOR US WOMEN!!!! Great job Amber, we appreciate you holding us down.
Until the next time we meet.
Peace and Blessings
Well, the 2008 Pop Warner season has begun and The Providence Packers Youth teams are representing. We had our round robin on August 23. The Pee-Wee team won 15-0 over the Cumberland Colts and the Midget team won 64-0 over the Cumberland Colts. August 31, 2008 was our first actual league game day and our Pee-Wee team lost to the Seekonk Jr. Warriors 15-0 but our Midget team beat the Coventry Rams 16-0. We would like to thank everyone who came out to support our kids Sunday and I hope the fan base grows exponentially as the season progresses. We are very proud of our kids in the way that they played on the field and behaved off of the field. I do intend to start blogging again soon but until then, come to our website so you can keep up with how our children are performing on the gridiron.
Big ups to our man in 2008, Barack Obama for history in the making. Everyone please go out and vote. Show this brother love not because he is a brother but because he is for real and has the answers to the question.
Also, big ups to my girl, Amber Campbell who went over to Beijing and represented in the 2008 Olympics. Although she did not bring home a medal, SHE NOW HOLDS A MAJOR RECORD FOR US WOMEN!!!! Great job Amber, we appreciate you holding us down.
Until the next time we meet.
Peace and Blessings
Monday, August 11, 2008
Dropping In
Hey world. I know I have been M.I.A this past month or so and I would like to apologize. A lot has been going on with The Providence Packers Youth Football program. We are finally getting the kids on the field of play. After 2 years of struggling, begging and fighting to get this program to a viable state, my partner (Wayne Blackmon) and I can finally take a moment to smell the roses. Our 2008 2nd Annual Golf Classic was a booming success. We would like to thank all of the participants who showed us love this year. We also want to mention a few people who were instrumental in our tournament success. Thank you to the following people for their help and support. Bear in mind these names are not in any particular order:
Earl Nichols, Tom Leasca, Prince Reid (Amtrak), Camille's Roman Garden, Chris Gasbarros Liquors, Joe Brooks (Essex), Jennifer Hendrick (Exeter Country Club), Pink Women (URI), B.O.N.D (URI), Meagan and a multitude of others. If I forgot to include your name, please charge that to my mind and not my heart as we appreciate each and every one of you.
To all of the golfers who attended, thank you very much for your support and we hope to see you again next year.
Before closing, I would just like to send out our condolences to the families and friends of two of our American icons. Mr. Bernie Mac and Mr. Issac Hayes. There will be a large void left in the world with the passing of these two great men. They were shining examples of the greatness that can be achieved with hard work and determination. I for one will miss them greatly.
Now that our kids will be taking the field, our work is just beginning. I intend to update and keep current our website so please visit from time to time and see what we are doing. I will try to keep more current with this page as time begins to permit but until then.
Peace and Blessings
Rick V
Earl Nichols, Tom Leasca, Prince Reid (Amtrak), Camille's Roman Garden, Chris Gasbarros Liquors, Joe Brooks (Essex), Jennifer Hendrick (Exeter Country Club), Pink Women (URI), B.O.N.D (URI), Meagan and a multitude of others. If I forgot to include your name, please charge that to my mind and not my heart as we appreciate each and every one of you.
To all of the golfers who attended, thank you very much for your support and we hope to see you again next year.
Before closing, I would just like to send out our condolences to the families and friends of two of our American icons. Mr. Bernie Mac and Mr. Issac Hayes. There will be a large void left in the world with the passing of these two great men. They were shining examples of the greatness that can be achieved with hard work and determination. I for one will miss them greatly.
Now that our kids will be taking the field, our work is just beginning. I intend to update and keep current our website so please visit from time to time and see what we are doing. I will try to keep more current with this page as time begins to permit but until then.
Peace and Blessings
Rick V
Monday, July 7, 2008
Just Popping In
Been real busy getting the youth football program in full swing. The 2008 season is upon us and there is so much to do. We anticipate 250 kids this year and hopefully, a trip to the Pop Warner Finals in Orlando Fla. so wish us luck. If you get the chance, visit us for stats and updates at our website:
http://www.freewebs.com/providencepackers/
We are a federally recognized 501(c)3 non-profit organization so please feel free to hit the Donations button to your left and make a tax deductable donation to the program. Everything we do is for the youth and we appreciate your support
Now on to something I am very proud to announce. Amber Campbell, the sister of a very good friend of mine (Brian Jones) http://cbi5thgear.blogspot.com/ has qualified and is a member of the 2008 Olympic Track and Field team. She throws the hammer and we are all proud of her. I know she has worked very hard and i am glad the hard work paid off. Please check out her blogpage for info and updates. We really need more positive role models like her in these trying times. You can find her at http://ambercampbellthrows.blogspot.com/. The lady is fierce so lens her your support.
Well, gotta go as there is work to be done. I have not forsaken you and I will be returning with more food for the brain and soul soon but right now, it is all about the kids.
Amber Campbell in 2008. We got you!!!
Peace and Blessing
http://www.freewebs.com/providencepackers/
We are a federally recognized 501(c)3 non-profit organization so please feel free to hit the Donations button to your left and make a tax deductable donation to the program. Everything we do is for the youth and we appreciate your support
Now on to something I am very proud to announce. Amber Campbell, the sister of a very good friend of mine (Brian Jones) http://cbi5thgear.blogspot.com/ has qualified and is a member of the 2008 Olympic Track and Field team. She throws the hammer and we are all proud of her. I know she has worked very hard and i am glad the hard work paid off. Please check out her blogpage for info and updates. We really need more positive role models like her in these trying times. You can find her at http://ambercampbellthrows.blogspot.com/. The lady is fierce so lens her your support.
Well, gotta go as there is work to be done. I have not forsaken you and I will be returning with more food for the brain and soul soon but right now, it is all about the kids.
Amber Campbell in 2008. We got you!!!
Peace and Blessing
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Is George Bush Afraid of Water ?
Yo. Sorry I have been MIA. Youth football is starting to kick in and there is so much that needs to be done. The Providence Packers will be on the field in 2008. Stay tuned for updates. In the meantime, come on and take a little ride with me.
I was watching the BET Awards show last night and a statement was made that really got me to think. We (U.S.) have been the victims of some major flooding all across the country. Back when New Orleans was devastated by the floods, I often heard my counterparts state that anyone who lives in a state that much below sea level was not to bright and they deserved whatever they got so I did a little research. Although New Orleans is 8 feet below sea level, Death valley California is 282 ft below sea level. There are 23 states at sea level leaving 27 states above sea level ranging from 1 ft, the Potomac river in Washington D.C. to 3.250 ft above being the Arkansas River. I guess we should all just leave the country if we were to follow the thought process of my counterparts. Even though it is appalling that even now, nothing much has been done to correct the situation in New Orleans, it is equally bad that there is nothing currently being done in Iowa, Missouri and other flood ravaged states. We are supposed to be the most powerful nation on the planet and we consistently ignore the plight of our fellow Americans while we spend trillions of dollars abroad trying to fix other nations problems. I am not saying that we should not help out other countries, I am just a firm believer that charity begins at home.
Thru this whole dilemma, I feel great being able to bring one thing to light. Brother Kanye West once made this statement on national TV at an awards show that based on President Bushes slow response to the plight in New Orleans, he did not give a damn about black people. Well, from what I see, he has not made much of an impact and his response time has been equally as slow now in the mid-western regions.
I have concluded that President Bush's issue is not that he doe not like or care about black people,
" He just doesn't care or give a damn about WET people".
I think this is evident by his dry sense of humor, his dry delivery of speeches, his dry hairdo. If these people were flooded in oil, George Will would be there with the quickness scraping them off with a squeegee.
What a difference a day makes. Keep your head up and your feet dry.
Peace and Blessings
I was watching the BET Awards show last night and a statement was made that really got me to think. We (U.S.) have been the victims of some major flooding all across the country. Back when New Orleans was devastated by the floods, I often heard my counterparts state that anyone who lives in a state that much below sea level was not to bright and they deserved whatever they got so I did a little research. Although New Orleans is 8 feet below sea level, Death valley California is 282 ft below sea level. There are 23 states at sea level leaving 27 states above sea level ranging from 1 ft, the Potomac river in Washington D.C. to 3.250 ft above being the Arkansas River. I guess we should all just leave the country if we were to follow the thought process of my counterparts. Even though it is appalling that even now, nothing much has been done to correct the situation in New Orleans, it is equally bad that there is nothing currently being done in Iowa, Missouri and other flood ravaged states. We are supposed to be the most powerful nation on the planet and we consistently ignore the plight of our fellow Americans while we spend trillions of dollars abroad trying to fix other nations problems. I am not saying that we should not help out other countries, I am just a firm believer that charity begins at home.
Thru this whole dilemma, I feel great being able to bring one thing to light. Brother Kanye West once made this statement on national TV at an awards show that based on President Bushes slow response to the plight in New Orleans, he did not give a damn about black people. Well, from what I see, he has not made much of an impact and his response time has been equally as slow now in the mid-western regions.
I have concluded that President Bush's issue is not that he doe not like or care about black people,
" He just doesn't care or give a damn about WET people".
I think this is evident by his dry sense of humor, his dry delivery of speeches, his dry hairdo. If these people were flooded in oil, George Will would be there with the quickness scraping them off with a squeegee.
What a difference a day makes. Keep your head up and your feet dry.
Peace and Blessings
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